allthemaretaken asked:

What you guys are doing is amazing. Hold on, ladies, and if you're ever looking for a male moderator, bring it up. Take care!

Thank you!

Well, this blog just took on a third member so I think we’re good for moderators right now (if I am not mistaken) But thanks for the offer!

- Jessica 

Anonymous asked:

I just don't know what to do. I'm sick of being down. I'm a Uni student and my parents support me, but they've pretty much said they're going to cut me off if they don't see Improvement in my life (in holidays ATM). I'm seeing a therapist/life coach, I'm eating more regularly (I have irregular eating patterns which veer towards not eating often) and am making huge efforts to be more organized and on time. They can't see that though. All they see is that I'm still nt going to the gym or my hair

Is a mess when I go to work, or that I’m a failure and an embarrassment to them. I feel like I’ve come such a far way in a short period of time, but they’re not able to see it. I’m really trying, but they aren’t. All they see is a little kid. At the moment, the only thing that brings me any semblance of joy/happiness is a tv show, and I fangirl over it. I don’t even do it that much but apparently it’s juvenile and I need to grow up. I’m sick of disappointing them but the 42 minutes a week that Watch this show are the closest thing I get to being happy. It’s helping me get past my problems but apparently it’s just making more for me. I’m not sure if I’m strong enough to keep being told I’m a failure.

This is a really tough situation. Your parents may just be having a hard time accepting you for who you’ve changed from. They might be so focused on comparing you to who you used to be, that they’re not seeing the great progress you’re making! If I were you, I would sit them down and explain how much of an effort you are making and outline all the progress you’ve made. As for your TV show situation, try to explain to them that with all hard work you’re doing during the week, it’s just nice to be able 42 minutes to relax, not worry and be happy.

If that doesn’t work, just know that you are doing a fantastic job and the little things that bother your parents really don’t matter in the long run. What ever you want to do, you’ll do when you’re ready, and what you’re doing now is great! Keep it up and you’ll be fine.

Good luck and please keep us updated!

This was a difficult question. Have any of our followers/other admins been through something like this before? Any advice you can give this anon would be greatly appreciated! It’s nice to hear other perspectives.

- Jessica

Moving Forward

Trigger Warning: SELF HARM

Hey guys.

So I’m off to a shaky start. I planned to answer some asks last night, but I kind of had a bit of a break down. This is incredibly unlike me, and I have no idea what triggered it, but I had one.

I got in last night from my boyfriend’s house feeling glum and anxious. For no particular reason. I also had an urge to self harm, for no particular reason. So, I told my boyfriend that I wanted to hurt myself. He was dealing with his own stuff last night (although he admitted that he thought what I was going through was worse) so it took over half an hour of begging for help from him. By the time he finally decided to try and help with the situation though, I was a mess. I was sobbing, hyperventilating and my leg had felt my fury.

So, by the time everything was over with, I was tired, sad, angry and regretful. Definitely not the mood I should be in to answer your questions/give advice.

But I’m much better today and will be answering some asks! I guess this is all part of the recovery process. I’m just gonna do what I can and take each day as it comes.

Since I have co-op until 4pm, I’ll start answering questions after that!
Hope you’re all having a lovely day.

- Jessica

COUNSELLING BLOG: How to be Yourself

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. First, and most important, see yourself as a valuable, likeable and worthwhile person – someone who is worth knowing and loving. If you find that hard, then you are likely believing lies about yourself. (And that may be something you want to explore, and work through with, a counsellor.)

2….

marfmellow:

  • there’s nothing wrong with asking your followers to help you
  • there’s nothing wrong with asking ANYBODY to help you
  • you are important 
  • you matter 
  • don’t forget that there is NOTHING wrong with needing/asking for help
  • there IS something wrong with making fun of someone or being snarky about their posts pertaining to them needing help